OT: waaaaaaay OT....

[Neil Gendzwill]

I think that's a pretty rude question. It implies that there is someone to blame and that someone is you.

[ncermak]

it a little like being in a performance and being asked your weaknesses...BS question.

But I don't have the right answer for you...

[wavechaser]

I find myself usually asking the reverse of that - "Why aren't you single?" ;-)

[Aisling]

carvingchef i like your reply! that's a good one ! that's a very southern lady response to a rude question "why do you ask?" hehe

i guess the reason i was trying to take it in a positive way is it is usually prefaced with, "you're so pretty, etc..." so why are you single or how could you be single...

i definitely see the negative flip side too, which i think is what makes one a bit defensive when asked.

its not the worst thing ever said to me to be sure!

[Michelle]

just smile and respond "why do you want to know?"
it puts the pressure back on them, you can use that to answer any question you don't really want to answer

Luv this answer! I use that approach when anyone asks me anything I don't necessarily want to or feel the need to respond to.

I hear ya Ais, I get that question all the time. But it's NEVER from single guys! Always married ones, or my girlfriends but mostly my family. I think they have just given up and think now that I'm gay (not that there's anything wrong with that!) and would rather just keep it to myself. HA HA

I always say that to myself when I look my best too - like when I'm hung over, doing plumbing work, or after giving the dogs a bath when they've rolled in something especially stinky. HEY BOYS - All this and single too? WAHOOO!

LOL

Best of luck Ais, because at the very least you live in a place where you have lots to choose from. I live in Summit - UGH!

[Aisling]

i have a date this week... so i'll try not to abandon all hope hahahaha

Michelle I usually get hit on by married men which does not make me happy. I don't know what about me says, " please married person, hit on me, i'm a whore who will sleep with you and ruin your marriage" because i would never, ever, ever do that sort of thing.

Or they say, " gee, IF i were single... "

as an ex of mine once said, "don't piss off the redhead... red is nature's danger color for a reason"

[ncermak]

"don't piss off the redhead... red is nature's danger color for a reason"

ais...It might be time to change your signature!

good luck on the date! you gonna be at the ski expo?

[Michelle]

You have a date? That's awesome! I'll try and be optomistic at least for you

[Aisling]

ais...It might be time to change your signature!

good luck on the date! you gonna be at the ski expo?

Noah, maybe you're right...

where and when is expo? that determines my being there or not

[Aisling]

You have a date? That's awesome! I'll try and be optomistic at least for you

I realize now that makes it sound like i don't go on dates... i should qualify that with... "with someone I might actually like"

hahaha

thanks Michelle

[dantheman0177]

i have a date this week... so i'll try not to abandon all hope hahahaha

Go Ais!!!

[cail]

yesterday was National Hug a Ginger Day

[bigdyno]

I think Michelle is single so she doesn't have to share her chocolate. I also think she has dogs because they are not allowed to eat chocolate so more for her.

But it's just a guess.

[Aisling]

yesterday was National Hug a Ginger Day

pfffft where were my hugs????

[anke]

hey aisling,

i only read the past three pages or so, and since this is a public forum, i'll just have to jump in here with my answer to the question "why are you single?"

first of all i think this is a really dumb question, very shallow too. do you ever ask anybody "why are you in a relationship"? as if there were are norm!

i too got this question a lot. "oh, how can someone like you be single" blah blah BS!

some people just don't fall in love easily, or are lucky to easily find a partner that matches and get that fireworks et al. and i usually just answer with the simple and honest truth: "because i haven't met anybody that i fell in love with".

i was single for 8 years, and it gets really annoying to be asked this question. i definitely started questioning myself too.

remember, YOU determine the norm and NOT society!!!

i'd rather be a long-term single then a serial-monogamist.

[cail]

pfffft where were my hugs????

ahhh.. you just weren't in the right location

[Michelle]

hey aisling,

i only read the past three pages or so, and since this is a public forum, i'll just have to jump in here with my answer to the question "why are you single?"

first of all i think this is a really dumb question, very shallow too. do you ever ask anybody "why are you in a relationship"? as if there were are norm!

i too got this question a lot. "oh, how can someone like you be single" blah blah BS!

some people just don't fall in love easily, or are lucky to easily find a partner that matches and get that fireworks et al. and i usually just answer with the simple and honest truth: "because i haven't met anybody that i fell in love with".

i was single for 8 years, and it gets really annoying to be asked this question. i definitely started questioning myself too.

remember, YOU determine the norm and NOT society!!!

i'd rather be a long-term single then a serial-monogamist.

What a great answer!

[Michelle]

pfffft where were my hugs????

What the heck is a ginger?

[Sinecure]

What the heck is a ginger?

Redhead

[Aisling]

hey aisling,

i only read the past three pages or so, and since this is a public forum, i'll just have to jump in here with my answer to the question "why are you single?"

first of all i think this is a really dumb question, very shallow too. do you ever ask anybody "why are you in a relationship"? as if there were are norm!

i too got this question a lot. "oh, how can someone like you be single" blah blah BS!

some people just don't fall in love easily, or are lucky to easily find a partner that matches and get that fireworks et al. and i usually just answer with the simple and honest truth: "because i haven't met anybody that i fell in love with".

i was single for 8 years, and it gets really annoying to be asked this question. i definitely started questioning myself too.

remember, YOU determine the norm and NOT society!!!

i'd rather be a long-term single then a serial-monogamist.

definitely great response thanks for your input! welcome aboard to the crazy train! haha

[Aisling]

ahhh.. you just weren't in the right location

well wth? if its a day for us reds, the hugs should come to US!

i did get a hug from a stranger for being a good samaritan and helping him and his wife with her wheelchair so that was one!

[cail]

well wth? if its a day for us reds, the hugs should come to US!

you must be hard to find

[ecnalubma]

"What the heck is a ginger?"
A ginger is a redhead WITH freckles. daywalkers just have red hair, no freckles. ( my daughter is a daywalker!)

[Aisling]

you must be hard to find

well where have you been looking, cail?

[Aisling]

"What the heck is a ginger?"
A ginger is a redhead WITH freckles. daywalkers just have red hair, no freckles. ( my daughter is a daywalker!)

hmmm i must be somewhere in between... my face is freckle-less but i do have them on my back, arms and shoulders... sporadically elsewhere LOL

[bigdyno]

Somebody, anybody, please make the inevitable join-the-dots comment so I don't have to.

Thank you, you may now return to regular spamming.

[cail]

well where have you been looking, cail?

you're email isn't enabled

[Michelle]

Ais, how was the date? and was there a second?

[Aisling]

you're email isn't enabled

its my AIM listed at hotmail

[Aisling]

Ais, how was the date? and was there a second?

ugh, Michelle... nothing so far has led me to believe there are decent people left in the world. i think that sums it up.
it's as if I have some sort of weird psycho magnet.


oh well. life's about taking chances. one of these days it will work out