OT: waaaaaaay OT....

[skipuppy]

Dan, you guys ARE still getting married right?????? Will you continue to only see each other on weekends?? You could have a huge house or something and then that way you can see each other rarely, and visit on the weekends.

[dantheman0177]

Hey personally I like the concept of two homes and seeing each other on weekends and a couple of times during the week but the other half doesn't agree. We have friends who do just that and it seems to work, but I don't think I will win that one.

As for what we are going to do once we get married, the plan is first to go to the UK to work for 12 months - 2 years and then take it from there. We will be moving just after Easter 07 and we are getting married on 31 March so it isn't a big deal for the time being. I think I'll just put off making a decision for as long as possible.

The best thing to come from it though will be the opportunity to ride in Europe and because we have Round The World airfares that have a 12 month expiry, come back via the US in Feb 08, just in time to ride at SES.

[Allee]

So I'm guessing that you're not actually going to be living together in London ... Vanessa will doss with friends in the West End and you'll rent a place in Brighton, cos you like it on the coast. And then you can see each other on weekends, when you catch cheap flights to Spain or the train to Paris.

Sorry, couldn't resist...

[dantheman0177]

So I'm guessing that you're not actually going to be living together in London ... Vanessa will doss with friends in the West End and you'll rent a place in Brighton, cos you like it on the coast. And then you can see each other on weekends, when you catch cheap flights to Spain or the train to Paris.

Sorry, couldn't resist...

Hey, there's an idea! Do you want to be our travel and moving consultant?

[Allee]

No, I'll leave you to sort that one all by yourself!

[dantheman0177]

Gee Allee, and I was thinking that I was amongst friends here...

[Michelle]

I don't know how I keep missing things that go on here.....I think a driving distance relationship under 3 hours works for a while. It is inevitable that if 2 people live far apart, at some point one will have to move, or both. Personally, I like having the SO live a little bit away, so that weekends are GREAT and during the week I can have my own life.


However, I find it quite hard to date someone closer (like Breck, 1/2 hour away) because it's close enough to see them when you want, but just a little too far to drive when you are tired after work, but then the guilty feelings start coming on.....it's better when they are far enough away that a plan has to be made. Plus, then you know you're staying over

I do think that 3 months is a little too soon to be moving for someone. I would say more like 1 year +, depending on how serious the relationship is going.

What about someone who lives in the states and the SO lives in Europe? What do you guys think about that?

[Blue Bird]

Michelle,

is Winter Park far enough away? Just think of the romance of learning a new mountain on weekends and during the week thinking of how I might wine and dine you on the next visit.

[jnshapiro]

After college, my wife moved back home to Vermont and I moved to Maryland/DC area. We were still dating at the time. Managed about a year of that before she decided to find a job where I was and move down. Of course, a marriage proposal (and a yes) might have had something to do with that

It worked out ok for us. We've been happily married for almost 13 years now.

Gotta tell you though, that long distance thing was tough. Not an easy thing to manage if you're serious about the relationship.

[Michelle]

Michelle,

is Winter Park far enough away? Just think of the romance of learning a new mountain on weekends and during the week thinking of how I might wine and dine you on the next visit.

Tee Hee.....MIGHT BE......I actually have not ridden at Winter Park, but my pass is not good there.

I agree with jnshapiro, long distance is a bit tough if you are serious, and if you aren't you aren't making the effort anyway, right?

[oldvolvosrule]

After graduating high school I made a beeline for Australia, worked on sheep station/rice farm in New South Wales. I was there for two years and met a sheila while there. Roz, short for Rosalyn. Once I came back to the states I/she tried to keep the relationship alive through phone calls and letter writing. I did make a couple trips over to see her and she made a couple of trips over to the States also. My mom and pops loved her and so did I. We talked about marriage and I was close to poppin' the question but chickened out. Just decided to see how things would go with the distance factor.

We did the long distance thing for just about two years after my return to the States. She wasn't willing to move from her family and I wasn't willing to move there either. We decided that we would remain friends and still wrote letters and talked on the phone.

I should fly back to Leeton one day and see if she is still in the area.

[Justin A.]

In highschool my girlfriend of 2 years had to move about 50 miles (one way) away. We made due seeing each other on weekends, but it was still tough. We talked on the phone and emailed and stuff too. After college she went to Plymouth State and I went to Daniel Webster. She left plymouth after a semester and went to DWC with me. While she was in plymouth is was tough, since plymouth is about 70 miles from Nashua, but again, we made due well enough.
The real test of our relationship will be when I go to Ottawa for school this spring and she stays here in Derry . I figure that after 5 1/2 years a few hundred miles shouldn't be a problem. Oh how I love her .

[dantheman0177]

Plus, then you know you're staying over

Gee, and here we were all under the impression that you were a good old fashioned, no-sex-before-marraige type and you have blown away all our misconceptions!!!

What about someone who lives in the states and the SO lives in Europe? What do you guys think about that?

Not a #@$&(% chance!

[Michelle]

HA HA Oh come on Dan. I didn't say anything about Sex. Sleeping on the couch, in the guest room is also acceptable behavior to keep my virtues clean And I agree with the Europe thing. Too far. I was dating a guy in Germany and we loved each other, but neither of us was willing to move when it came down to it. Plus, it's just stupid - you can't have a real relationship over the phone or via email. You aren't living each other's daily/weekly life, problems, good times, etc. It's a fantasy.


oldvolvosrule, if neither one of you was willing to move for the other, don't you think that says something there? I would think if it was really meant to be, one of you (or both - hey, new place new start) would sacrifice. I guess I'm a romantic where if it's true, then nothing will stop you from being together.

[Blue Bird]

Michelle

We can't let a little thing like that stop us! I can get a pass just for you to use and on weekends that you might not want to ski, we could rendezvous in Kremmling, maybe a little cow tipping to get the night started!?

P.S
How does one copy a previous post or part of a previous post and insert in a new post? argggg!!

[Justin A.]

How does one copy a previous post or part of a previous post and insert in a new post? argggg!!

Like that? Just hit the quote button. its over there ----->

[Michelle]

Michelle

We can't let a little thing like that stop us! I can get a pass just for you to use and on weekends that you might not want to ski, we could rendezvous in Kremmling, maybe a little cow tipping to get the night started!?!

Cow tipping? How can a girl resist that proposal?

[dantheman0177]

Cow tipping? How can a girl resist that proposal?

As much as it sounds like fun, I have lived on a farm nearly all my life and I just don't believe in it as a concept. Cows sleep lying down.

Sorry to disappoint but you might need to find another first date idea.

[dano]

In Salem, MA.

"Get A Taste of Religion. Lick A Witch"

Works for me.

[Blue Bird]

As much as it sounds like fun, I have lived on a farm nearly all my life and I just don't believe in it as a concept. Cows sleep lying down.

Sorry to disappoint but you might need to find another first date idea.

Damn! I thought I might be on to something, I was hoping that a gal in the mountains might show me how to do this. It's always been a dream of mine.

Have no fear Michelle, there is more romance left in me!! I just need to ask find out which wine's weaken the knees best!
Even if my romantic side doesn't work I still have a pass for you to come and explore WP

[dantheman0177]

Have no fear Michelle, there is more romance left in me!! I just need to ask find out which wine's weaken the knees best!

Simple.

Look for the one with the highest possible number followed by a % sign on the label. That should do the trick. Can't make any guarantees on taste using this theory though.

[wavechaser]

I have three "girlfriends" - one in San Diego, one in Portland, ME, and one in northern NJ. We see each other about 2-3 times a year. ALL of them are GREAT and we have a blast when together. But NONE of us wants to move to where the other is (I'm in northern VT). This might be a "no commitment quadrangle" or some other Dr. Phil-ism I am sure...and it does suck when you feel like being with someone on a cold night, or any night - but we are all very happy with our jobs / lives right where we are. I am like Michelle in that I always figure if it is REALLY right someone will make the move, but IS that possible the way the world works these days? It's so hard to get in the right physical place financially and housing wise, then to change it can be tough. I have actually MADE that move twice - and it ended horribly BOTH times when I moved in on THEIR world...and it seemed SO right before that. Hard to figure.

Michelle - I wonder what a Dr. Phil (not you phillfell!) would say about that "during the week I can have my own life" thing...I know what you mean, boy do I, but hey...you wanna join a long distance "no commitment pentangle"??

PS - Up here in VT we dispense with the "tipping" part and just go right for the full-on knockdown:
http://www.biggamehunt.net/sections/..._11270601.html

[Aisling]

interesting stories... wavechaser do all 3 gals know about one another? ! LOL


when i graduated hs i went to ireland.. met a bloke there named alex and we exchanged addresses and figured we'd be pen pals... well pals turned to romance and it was quite fairy-tale like... sometimes i'll go read one of those old letters and just smile. anyway... he decided to come over to the states and spend his summer on a j1... stayed from june til oct and we fell in love. (awww) in the winter i went and stayed with his family for my winter break (about 3 wks ithink)... then i had to go back to college.
we wrote, we phoned, we emailed... we did what we could... and realization came that someone had to move as winter turned to spring or else it was doomed. he wanted me to move to ireland and get married... i thought i was way too young... and i was.. 19. i tried to figure out a way to save up enough to come for the summer but by may a boy in school kept chasing me and i felt guilty for even flirting with him so i called alex and told him... he wound up telling me he'd already started dating a girl and was working up the courage to tell me. oddly, he said the other girl knew all about me because he couldn't stop talking about me. we loved each other a lot but we were too young and couldnt make a go of it for real.

we kept in touch over the years and i still consider him one of the best friends i have in the world. he's in australia now and got married last yr to a nice lil chinese lady. matter of fact.. our annual phone call is coming up... New years eve

[Michelle]

As much as it sounds like fun, I have lived on a farm nearly all my life and I just don't believe in it as a concept. Cows sleep lying down.

Sorry to disappoint but you might need to find another first date idea.

Way to ruin the romance Dan!

[Michelle]

Damn! I thought I might be on to something, I was hoping that a gal in the mountains might show me how to do this. It's always been a dream of mine.

Have no fear Michelle, there is more romance left in me!! I just need to ask find out which wine's weaken the knees best!
Even if my romantic side doesn't work I still have a pass for you to come and explore WP

All of this is very flattering and sounds really fun! We'll just have to pick a day when I am not involved in a Tele demo, Snowboard demo, or dog sledding. I do love wine though......

[Blue Bird]

All of this is very flattering and sounds really fun! We'll just have to pick a day when I am not involved in a Tele demo, Snowboard demo, or dog sledding. I do love wine though......

Maybe a demo over here, quite a few telemarkers. not to many hardbooters. are the dogs yours?
It sounds like you are living the skier life; 3 jobs and little time to play for your self?! I hope you get mud season off

[Michelle]

Actually, I only have 2 jobs but Bomber seems like 3 by itself sometimes

We do have a tele demo at Winter Park coming up, and I probably won't have to work ALL day. We also have dog sledding races your way...Granby is a popular venue. I think the Tele demo is coming up in Dec - I don't have the dates. But check with the mountain when the Total Telemark Tour is coming.

Of the 3 dogs in the photo, mine are the 2 on the right. The Rottie is Fin's. They run on teams, but I also work with 100 other dogs that we run!

[Blue Bird]

Couldn't find any info on the tour coming through WP. Finding any schedule information wasn't easy. At the Tough Guy Promotions site, info was sporadic( my searches pointed to them as the organizer, not totally sure though).

I have a husky also. amazing dog, never ceases to amaze me. too many stories to tell about her, she will be eleven in April and still gets around quite well.
Do you do tours as well as racing? Ski-jouring? seems like a pretty cool job though.

[patmoore]

Wow! This thread has lasted a lot longer than some of the relationships I had in the early 90's. I haven't visited it in a long time and just perused it to see if I had ever participated. Contained below is my one contribution from a year and a half ago.

Following the topic of Long Distance Relationships, I remember being told I was GUD. I discovered that meant Geographically UnDesireabe. Not sure that term is still in existence but the concept is alive and well. I'm just glad the hunt is over. Best of luck to all those still in the game!
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July 13, 2005
Gotta chime in here. I was married for 24 years and then had 8 off for good behavior. Jumped back into the fray and we just had our 4th anniversary.

In the intervening years I had to be retrained. The last time I had been on a date was during LBJ's administration. The local Sunday night singles dance was great for dancing but I never met anyone one I wanted to go out with. Online dating was a new thing then - there were no commercial services like match.com but AOL and Prodigy had some ways to meet people. By my count I had 17 different dates that way and all were enjoyable. It was clear many wouldn't go beyond the first date but we still had a nice time. A few developed into short term relationships.

It wasn't until I joined a Connecticut-based ski club that I met women I was interested in. That's where I met my wife. The club is a social club as much as it is a winter sports club. It's as active in the summer as it is in the winter. See: www.mtlski.com

My ski club welcomes boarders and I suspect that's true of most others. check your local area to see if there is a comparable organization.

Good luck!

[Michelle]

I don't do any racing. Just like anything else, it takes time, dedication, and gear (in this case, dogs) and I would have to have time to train. I would love to do skijoring races, but it helps to know how to ski and not snowboard .


Don't know about the schedule, I'll have to look it up.

And just FYI patmoore, this thread has lasted longer than the last 3 relationships I've had. So you can kind of tell what the "game" is like out there - NOT FUN!